The overwhelming majority of things said to cancer patients are well intended. I know it without a doubt. In fact, I would hazard to say that most people with FBC (or any kind of f-bomb cancer for that matter) know it. However, what is well intended doesn’t always come across quite so well. As one of my readers (& also dear friend!) said, “It is certainly a highly sensitive time for the patient, and often a helpless feeling for the friend/family. Be forgiving of verbal clumsiness…accept the good intention.” I do/did…always.
My intent in sharing these “clouds” and “Silver Linings” is not in any way to be complainy, kvetchy, or whiny; rather it is to build compassion (both for the patient AND the friend) and to illustrate behaviors and words that many cancer patients appreciate…to help alleviate the feelings of helplessness and awkwardness.
So, next up in the series of What to Say (or Not to Say) to someone with FBC revolves around surgery, specifically mastectomy surgery. Below is something that was said to me quite a bit…and what I would have preferred to hear.
Anything that you’d like to share? As always, I sure appreciate your feedback and input!