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Coping with Cancer During the Holidays

While I loooooove the holidays, they are also fraught with challenges You know what I mean?  Too many calories. Too little sleep.  Too many errands. Too little time. The year that I had FBC was especially difficult – obviously. DUH. I felt completely out of step from the rest of the world during that holiday season.  I wondered:  How do I take care of myself AND everything else? How can I celebrate when I have so many other things on my mind?  I know that I wasn’t alone in having these feelings.

Here are some additional tips for coping with cancer during the holidays:

  • Release obligation. This was especially hard for me, but when I did, I felt so much better.  I didn’t “should” on myself. I gave myself permission to pace my activities and to decline invitations when I didn’t feel well or have the energy to participate.
  • Express your feelings in ways that help you receive the support of the important people in
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    Today, The Husband and I are in LA for an appointment with my plastic surgeon (lady lumps still looking good, by the way!) and to... continue reading

    Brookside Scheduling and Testing

    Many people have asked questions about the timing of my chemo schedule and testing (thanks for caring and being interested!). So, I thought I’d lay... continue reading

    Brookside Middle-of-the Night Musings

    Thanks to Decadron, I am up again in the middle of the night (again) and I thought I’d offload some of the random musings in... continue reading

    Day One Post Breast Cancer Chemotherapy

    Today, day one post breast cancer chemotherapy, I have to tell you is a tough, tough day.  I just feel F-Bomb rotten. Thanks to the... continue reading

    Dressing for Chemo

    Part of my confidence has always come from the way I dress, i.e., the outside working with the inside to produce fortitude, energy and courage.... continue reading

    Chemotherapy 1st Cycle, Round 2

    This morning is a new day.  The sun is shining.  Time for Chemotherapy 1st Cycle, Round 2. Today is going to be a good day!... continue reading

    Chemotherapy 1st Cycle, Almost

    This morning, I was the first patient this morning at the Santa Barbara Cancer Center. Bright and early. I was nervous, really, really nervous. At... continue reading

    Chemotherapy and its Side Effects

    Tomorrow is the first day of chemotherapy. WTF?  Did I really just write that?  Really?  Seems so surreal.  Two messages from friends keep going through... continue reading

    Pre-Chemotherapy Testing

    Chemotherapy begins on Monday, the 27th.  3 days. FFS (For F**k’s Sake). I’m feeling a little anxious.  Scared, I’m not.  I’m anxious about how my... continue reading

    Port-A-Cath Insertion: Follow-up

    The Port-A-Cath Insertion went very smoothly.  A SL to the day! Let’s just say that with some good medication: Fentanyl (a potent narcotic analgesic) and... continue reading

    Port-A-Cath Insertion

    This morning, I am going for my Port-A-Cath insertion, which means: Commencement of phase two in the FBC fight. What is a Port-A-Cath? As you... continue reading

    Relaxation During Cancer Treatment

    I know that it will not come as a surprise when I say that cancer and its treatment can be stressful for people with cancer... continue reading

    Breast Cancer Tattoo Removal

    One of the constant reminders of my experience with FBC (f-bomb breast cancer) is my tattoos from radiation. Now, granted they are small, the size... continue reading

    Let's Talk About Sex (During Cancer Treatment), Baby

    Let’s Talk About Sex (During Cancer Treatment), Baby In the midst of a cancer diagnosis, treatment, or recovery, intimacy can easily slip to the bottom... continue reading

    Silver Lining Checkup!

    A great post-radiation checkup report from San Francisco!

    Graduation!

    I have had the honor of earning quite a few graduation certificates in my life (because I loooooove school!). I can honestly say that the one I received yesterday for graduating from breast cancer treatment means as much, if not more, than all of the others!

    Resilience

    My last Radiation treatment is a week from today. Wow. Absolutely remarkable that nearly 8 months have passed since my breast cancer diagnosis. Everything related to FBC is far from over. However, every new day is another step in the right direction (Silver Lining)!

    Big Day!

    Today was a big day. A...R E A L L Y -B I G-D A Y for two reasons. Why, you ask? Well, first of all, I had my eyebrows plucked and shaped! Secondly...

    Freight Train of Fatigue

    The freight train of fatigue from breast cancer radiation has taken up residence in my body. Why do x-rays to a small area of my body cause so much exhaustion, you ask? Well, let me tell you...

    Fabulous Ferry and Lousy Lymphedema

    As I continue on this breast cancer journey, for every downer, there are two Silver Linings. The nicest, most amazing things happen. When I need them the most. Every. Single. Day.

    Radiation Reality

    Today was day 1 of 25 Radiation Treatments for my breast cancer. Radiation is the third of three legs of this treatment stool. I am hopeful that that this stool will be a strong and solid foundation that will last for generations to come.

    Radiation Rehearsal

    Today is the day of my "dry run" of radiation for breast cancer. My nerves are on high alert; however, the Silver Linings continue to appear.

    Gettin' Ready to Radiate!

    Today, I officially entered the breast cancer radiation road. Unfortunately, it is a heavily trafficked road. The Silver Lining news is that I am being cared for by an extraordinary team...including a bolus!

    The Road to Radiation

    Now that my chemo is DONE and my port-a-cath is OUT, it's time to begin the Road to Radiation. Silver Lining: this is the LAST part of my treatment regimen. Yippeeee-do!

    The Illusion of Time After Cancer

    Recently, I came across a new blog that I am crazy about.  It is called HerAfter.com. The author, Rachael Yahne, had cancer and is a writer... continue reading

    4th Cancerversary: The Breast Cancer Diagnosis

    Four years ago today, I was diagnosed with FBC, known to many of you as f-bomb breast cancer. Today is a day of great reflection... continue reading

    Hellooooooo After a Hiatus & Hysterectomy

    Hiatus & Hysterectomy Hello! Hello! Hello! Where to begin? My oh my. I thought that sitting down to my beloved blog again after a six... continue reading

    Helpful Hot Flash Hints

    Helpful Hot Flash Hints For those of you who have experienced (naturally occurring or chemo-induced) menopause, you know exactly what I mean when I say... continue reading

    If Not Now When? Carpe Diem After Cancer

    If Not Now When? In the past week, we have had several friends who have been afflicted with the most random and debilitating things, everything... continue reading

    Yoga Dreaming

    Yoga Dreaming One aspect of November’s month of self care includes the development of a yoga practice. Ha! I can barely get that sentence out... continue reading

    3rd Cancerversary

    3rd Cancerversary Three years ago today, I was diagnosed with FBC (f-bomb breast cancer). Wow. I still can’t believe that I just wrote that. I... continue reading

    5 Ways To Take Care of Yourself

    5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Lately, I’ve been having crazy messy drippy hot flashes. Here’s how it goes: I wake up multiple times... continue reading

    Returning to Work after Cancer Treatment: Co-Worker Adjustment

    Returning to Work After Cancer Treatment A dear reader wrote to me recently telling me that returning to work was a challenge not for reasons... continue reading

    Tig Notaro: Life After Cancer

    In the past week, I have heard about Tig Notaro and her life after breast cancer no less than three times, most recently via an interview on Refinery... continue reading

    Anxiety and Depression after Breast Cancer

    The After period of FBC (f-bomb breast cancer for new readers) presents its own unique set of challenges. The anxiety and depression that sneaked in AFTER... continue reading

    Life After: Making Plans After Cancer

    Making Plans After Cancer The other day, I had a long talk with one of my dearest friends who is nearing the end of her... continue reading

    Reverse Dodge Ball

    In last week’s Girls Inc speech, I used a dodge ball analogy. Lots of people have been responding to it, so I thought I’d share... continue reading

    Bone Scan After Chemotherapy

    Last week, I went for a post-chemotherapy bone density scan. At 42, active, regaining stamina, and dutifully taking my vitamins, why would I need to... continue reading

    Crazy Town

    After having had f-bomb cancer, the thought of a potential of a recurrence is never far from my mind. A recurrence occurs when cancer comes... continue reading

    Silver Lining Lifelines

    This month finds me in a very challenging period. I am working on a project that is all-consuming and full of blood, sweat and tears…literally.... continue reading

    Illness and Weather: The Great Equalizers

    Today, I was supposed to be in Salt Lake City for the Alt Summit blogging conference. I was really excited about the learning and mingling... continue reading

    Coping with Grief During the Holidays

    While there is a whole heckuvalot of “Joy to the World” going on during this holiday season, I must admit that there is also a... continue reading

    A Classic

    Hope you all are having a beautiful holiday!  We have been very Merry and had lots of Silver Linings! So much so that I have... continue reading

    Cancer is Not a Gift

    As I was Christmas shopping today, I chuckled to myself when I thought about all of the people who have said (in different iterations) to... continue reading

    Do You Remember Me?

    Last weekend I was at a party – a big party – and a woman came up to me and said (the dreaded line), “Do... continue reading

    Brain Cleanse

    By late November, I realized that I had already put my ice skates on and was on the verge of going down the slippery slope... continue reading

    2nd Cancerversary

    2nd Cancerversary Today, October 15th, marks the 2nd Anniversary of my FBC (f-bomb breast cancer) diagnosis.  I can’t believe that I just wrote that. Any... continue reading

    Time for Pajama Day!

    From Friday afternoon until Saturday morning, I am having my very own Pajama Day!  I’ve been writing about Pajama Days for some time now. When I first... continue reading

    Silver Lined Discovery: Kavinace

    In my earlier post dedicated to getting the right amount of sleep, I wrote about Kavinace, but it dawned on me that I didn’t give... continue reading

    Zzzzzzz....

    Sleep. Beautiful, wonderful, magnificent and dreamy sleep. I love it. I lost it for a year and a half. When I was sick, I would... continue reading

    The Road

    I recite this poem to Sweetly Six almost every day.  I have it memorized at this point and love it more and more every time... continue reading

    Oncology Nursing Month

    When I was diagnosed with FBC last year, I found myself in the unique position of being on the other side of the hospital bed.... continue reading

    Sleeping (Is) Beauty

    After writing about the Drug Holiday that I’ve been on for the past few weeks, I’m thrilled beyond belief to report that for the first... continue reading

    Open Wounds

    This weekend, I was invited to speak at an event. I was asked to “tell my story.”  I had my usual pre-speaking Nerve Bugs, for which... continue reading

    A Drug Holiday

    A Drug Holiday About three weeks ago, I made a pretty radical decision: I decided to take a “drug holiday” from Tamoxifen. As you may... continue reading

    Decision Fatigue

    During my treatment for FBC (f-bomb breast cancer for new readers), I had mental fatigue as much as I had physical fatigue. There were days... continue reading

    The Clown Car in Life

    One of my best girlfriends (with whom I travel pretty frequently) teases me about the fact that my suitcase always looks like a clown car.... continue reading

    More Cancer Side Effects

    More Cancer Side Effects In the last week, I have come to the realization that I am still having side effects from FBC (f-bomb breast... continue reading

    Coming Out Party

    This weekend I went to a fancy schmancy black-tie event in Chicago. The HOTY is especially cute in a tuxedo and I love wearing a... continue reading

    Funkilation

    The poor HOTY – again. I am totally funk’d up – again. I am, however, able to trace two of the sources of the funkilation,... continue reading

    Survivor Guilt After Cancer Treatment

    Survivor Guilt After Cancer Treatment I’ve never wondered why I was diagnosed with cancer. Many people have asked me, “Why on earth would you, a... continue reading

    Anticipation After Cancer Treatment

    This week, I have my first 3 month checkup post treatment. I'm going for my blood work tomorrow morning and will see my Oncologist on Friday. I am a little nervous. Totally normal, I know. But still.

    What's Next: Locusts?

    Last week, I woke up with a ridiculous, itchy, painful rash around my mouth. F-bomb. Really? Couldn't I just go ONE month without something?

    Running to Restore My Body after Cancer

    My goal last October was to fully recover from surgery for FBC and to endure chemo and radiation therapy. My goal this October is to run a 1/2 Marathon. What a difference a year makes (Silver Lining!).

    GI Jane meets Jean Seberg

    Today was another Silver Lined day over here on Recovery Road. Why? Well, because I went to get my first HAIRCUT. It's been NINE months since my last one (well, not counting the head shave!).

    Celebrating a Cancerversary

    Cancerversary This time last year, as I was nearing the end of my “Fat and Happy Summer,” I decided to begin training for a half... continue reading

    More Middle of the Night Musings

    More middle of the night musings, tennis and posting from insomnia-ville.

    Now What?

    Now that radiation is done, the big question is: Now What? More treatment? Remission? Testing? The "Now What?" question has three answers which I will, of course, explain.

    Unexpected Letdown

    When I finished with radiation and came home, I had no idea that there can be an unexpected side effect to surgery, chemo and radiation: post-treatment letdown. I know. I know. How dare I suggest it? Why on earth would I think it? Well, you know by now that I am hardly the girl to shy away from a difficult topic.

    Simplify

    Simplify. It's a word that keeps popping into my mind (and when things pop into my mind, I feel compelled to share them on the Brookside Buzz!).

    Coping with Cancer During the Holidays

    While I loooooove the holidays, they are also fraught with challenges You know what I mean?  Too many calories. Too little sleep.  Too many errands.... continue reading

    Being a Friend to Someone With Cancer

    Being a Friend to Someone With Cancer While on the book tour, the number one question that people asked me (and I am asked on... continue reading

    How to Make Stress Your Friend

    How to Make Stress Your Friend Last week – speaking at the Clinton Foundation Women’s Health Day – was stressful. I drove the poor HOTY... continue reading

    Long Distance Caregiving of a Friend with Cancer

    Long Distance Caregiving of a Friend with Cancer As if having a friend with cancer isn’t bad enough, right? Well, I’m sorry to be the... continue reading

    Nurse Love

    When people ask me what I do, first and foremost, I say, “I’m a nurse.” It is an honor and joy to be a part... continue reading

    Caregiver Fatigue

    As I wrote recently, caregiving can be a demanding and stressful experience, either personally or professionally. Sometimes I don’t think that caregivers get enough credit... continue reading

    Caring for the Caregiver

    In the world of f-bomb cancer and other illnesses, a “Caregiver” is someone who is responsible for attending to the physical, emotional, or financial needs... continue reading

    A Valuable Lesson in Following Intuition

    This is my first week back at work and on the road, which required every bit of mental and physical strength that I could muster.... continue reading

    Karen Rice's Silver Linings

    “An Awakening” When I was diagnosed with Breast cancer a few years back, I reacted like most who receive a cancer diagnosis; first thing came... continue reading

    Linda's Silver Linings

    In August of 1998, I happened to drop a bottle of shampoo while in the shower. When I bent down to pick it up, my... continue reading

    Linda's Silver Linings

    Hi, I’m a fan & ‘faithful reader’ since discovering your site! I’m 54 & was diagnosed with stage II FBC 03/2010. 2 lumpectomies. Had 4... continue reading

    Catherine's Silver Linings

      Dearest Hollye, I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma in February, 1999 while living in Dallas, TX. I had just had a mammogram the... continue reading

    Jill's Silver Linings

    This is not a submission as much as a ‘thank you’. I was diagnosed April 25, 2012 with DCIS and have had surgery, just started... continue reading

    Sher's Silver Linings

    I am a two time breast cancer survivor who continues to experience many silver linings despite being in a second round of treatments. Your site... continue reading

    Michele's Silver Linings

    From stage 3 breast cancer………to Wilhelmina semi-finalist in the model face 0f2012 Breast cancer and brain cancer pushed me to the edge…….but I’m pushing back.... continue reading

    Gracie's Silver Linings

      10 months since I finished my chemo and radiation and now learning to deal with all the complications of that and tamoxifen yet so... continue reading

    Karen's Silver Linings

    I’m a two-time cancer survivor, who was like most when I heard the news, “a death sentence”. I found out later, it was truly “an... continue reading

    Maggie's Silver Linings

    My story is simply a complicated mess. I am an LPN and I started my own little blog, I do not post nearly as often... continue reading

    S.F.'s Silver Linings

    Hi Hollye – Came across your site as I wanted to share my story (literally, see below) with others. But, saw your recent posting on... continue reading

    Andrea's Silver Linings

    After moving to Santa Barbara last year, I heard about your blog. I was diagnosed in 2009 with breast cancer and survived through the ringer... continue reading

    Katie's Silver Linings

        Dear Hollye, My name is Katie Stotler, 2 years ago I underwent a bilateral mastectomy. After coming home from my surgery I had... continue reading

    Valérie's Silver Linings

    I was reading today a lot of your stories, and I realized how much some of the stories I have been reading are similar to... continue reading

    Shared Silver Linings

    In the last week or so, there has been a beautiful surge in the number of people sharing their stories (the direct link to do... continue reading

    Sandy's Silver Linings

    It’s very hard to share my story or to find a place where I feel I belong because when I was diagnosed with triple negative... continue reading

    Lisa's Silver Linings

    I am a 36 yr old female who was diagnose with Breast Cancer on Feb. 15,2011. I had stage one on left and stage two... continue reading

    Deidre's Silver Linings

    I have just spent the last 3 hours reading your “Silver Lining” story of your experiences with and surviving Breast Cancer. Wow!  This is my... continue reading

    Ellen's Silver Linings

    I don’t have cancer, but I have a chronic neurological illness that is very painful and potentially fatal: chronic inflammatory demyelinating polyneuropathy or CIDP. My... continue reading

    Sue's Silver Linings

    Thank you Hollye for allowing me to share my story——-Sue Walking down the dim hallway, I have a light bulb moment; “I don’t need any... continue reading

    Gaynor's Silver Linings

    I have just started my “journey” , not a term I’ve always got on with, but as a nurse placed a name tag on my... continue reading

    Adriane's Silver Linings

    I always figured that I would fight cancer at some point in my life. I just didn’t fiure that I would be 43 years old... continue reading

    Wendy's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed with breast cancer in October 2009 and decided to do chemo before surgery as a way to shrink the tumor in the... continue reading

    Joyce's Silver Linings

    I found your site on facebook quite by accident, right before my diagnosis! However, I read it daily, but have never written. I have had... continue reading

    Brenda's Silver Linings

    I miss my mother…The silver lining…her goodness, caring heart and wisdom lives on, as a legacy of love that will always be with me.

    Robbin's Silver Linings

    I had gone to the doctor in September because I wasn’t feeling well, and while I was there said “I’m gonna get my money’s worth... continue reading

    Gracie's Silver Linings

    At 43 yrs old,I had my first mammogram and was called beck in for ultrasound.core biopsy etc and learned on new years day that I... continue reading

    Laura R's Silver Linings

    One of the most surprising things I have found about having cancer, so far, is the different reactions I have received from people. I am... continue reading

    Karyn Mae's Silver Linings

    I was a single mother, working three jobs to support my children. It was also my first mammogram. I didn’t want to do it; there... continue reading

    Mary Beth's Silver Linings

    When first diagnosed with breast cancer, it didn’t even occur to me that it was something I needed to fight. The “war on cancer” declared... continue reading

    Rose's Silver Linings

    hi I am 48years old was diagonis with DCIS breast cancer had surgery on the 18th january was very successeful i am home recovering from... continue reading

    Robbin's Silver Linings

    On September 21,2011 my surgeon called me with the news that the biopsy was positive for breast cancer. This came after having an ultra sound... continue reading

    Sandy's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed in Nov. 2010 with Inflammatory Breast Cancer (IBC) after seeing my surgeon. I knew I had some form of breast cancer because... continue reading

    Judi's Silver Linings

    My problem is it is my husband with the breast cancer. He had a breast removal 10 years ago. 17 positive lymph nodes. Chemo, raditation... continue reading

    Carolyn's Silver Linings

    I stumbled onto your lovely site and appreciate your point of view! My sterling jewelry company was created in memory of my mother who encouraged... continue reading

    Denise's Silver Linings

    My experience was many years ago, in January 1994. I remember the same feelings of dread, the questions, the reality of my mortality hitting me... continue reading

    Anne's Silver Linings

    You know what your blog reminds me of….my favorite box of chocolates. Just once a year, I indulge in eating a box of Turtles. I... continue reading

    Alisa's Silver Linings

    May 2008, my husband walked by me giving me a feel on the left side. He stopped and said “what is that”? I checked and... continue reading

    Karen's Silver Linings

    I was feeling fine at the turn of the new year 2009. Had my yearly digital mammogram in Dec. 2008 along with an ultrasound and... continue reading

    Anne P's Silver Linings

    Earlier this week, you posted a wonderful story from a “sister” that turned her breast cancer into a mission of making bags for chemo patients,... continue reading

    Allison's Silver Linings

    I wrote this poem several months ago before finding The Silver Pen. This poem will tell you everything you need to know about my breast... continue reading

    Anne's Silver Linings

    When I was 30 years old and 8 months pregnant with my third son, I was given the worst news of my life. I was... continue reading

    Rebecca's Silver Linings

    I wanted to share an idea that I’ve been doing for about a year now. After experiencing the challenges (not sure how else to put... continue reading

    Charlyn's Silver Linings

    1.  My post-mastectomy incision has not healed after seven months and several resconstructive surgeries.  Then I developed a blood clot in my subclavian vein (at... continue reading

    Joan's Silver Linings

    I have always been a lover of life & have appreciated each day to the “ultimate” as I have had my Ups & downs with... continue reading

    Ruth's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer the end of March 2011. I had found a small cyst and had gone into the doctor. I was... continue reading

    Ziggy's Silver Linings

    I have learned to live life as the silver/grey hair on my head… it was the last to fall out and the first to come... continue reading

    Anne's Silver Linings

    Remember those days when you looked in the mirror at your balding head? Or looked at your body that had changed in the blink of... continue reading

    Diane's Silver Linings

    I’m a 43 year old single mom to two teenage boys. I was diagnosed on 9/14/2010 with breast cancer – IDC. I had found a... continue reading

    JoAnn's Silver Linings

    My silver lining was going on facebook and finding the link to this blog where I can tell my story. My story begins in spring,... continue reading

    Pat's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed with breast cancer in early November 1988. On November 28, 1988, I had a bilateral mastectomy and have been cancer free since... continue reading

    Koryn's Silver Linings

      I was diagnosed with invasive ductal and infiltrating lobular Her2+ breast cancer 3 years ago It was October of 2008, the month of my... continue reading

    Lynn's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed July 1st of this year. I was always worried about getting breast cancer my whole life. (I am 56.) Then I got... continue reading

    Sandra's Silver Linings

    Clairfied awareness has become an integral part of my life, by this I mean that I now want to know everything …..as I traveled in... continue reading

    Jean's Silver Linings

    I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer fall of 2003, had a bilateral mastectomy with immediate reconstruction then chemo, then tamoxifen, then arimidex and... continue reading

    Eugenia's Silver Linings

    The silver lining of breast cancer: you might ask? How can there be one? After a devastating diagnoses what to do? No pity parties here lets get... continue reading

    Coping with Cancer During the Holidays

    While I loooooove the holidays, they are also fraught with challenges You know what I mean?  Too many calories. Too little sleep.  Too many errands.... continue reading

    Being a Friend to Someone With Cancer

    Being a Friend to Someone With Cancer While on the book tour, the number one question that people asked me (and I am asked on... continue reading

    What to Say to Someone with Cancer (And What Not to Say)

    What to Say to Someone with Cancer (and What Not to Say) Oh gosh. At least ten times a week, I get an email informing... continue reading

    Bookworm: How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who is Sick

    Now, HERE my friends is an absolute MUST read: How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who is Sick by Letty Cottin Pogrebin! It... continue reading

    What to Say To Someone Who Has Cancer - The Ring Theory

    As many of you may recall, I have written quite a bit about what to say and WTF not to say to someone with FBC (f-bomb breast... continue reading

    What to Say (or Not to Say) #7

    The overwhelming majority of things said to cancer patients are well intended. I know it without a doubt. In fact, I would hazard to say that... continue reading

    What to Say (or WTF Not to Say) #6

    This week, I posted some of the What to Say (or Not to Say) graphics on The Huffington Post and boy oh boy did the... continue reading

    What to Say (or Not to Say) #5

    While I was sitting with my girlfriend yesterday as she received her first infusion of chemotherapy, we were talking about all of the things that she... continue reading

    What to Say or (or Not to Say) #4

    I know that the majority of things said to cancer patients are well intended. I really do. This is the reason that during this month dedicated... continue reading

    Breast Cancer Awareness Month: What to Say (or Not to Say) #3

    Next up in the series of What to Say (or Not to Say) to someone with FBC revolves around chemo.  I heard this line many... continue reading

    Breast Cancer Awareness Month: What to Say (or Not to Say) #2

    As I mentioned yesterday, I am frequently asked: What should I say (or not say) to my friend/sister/loved one who has been diagnosed with FBC... continue reading

    Breast Cancer Awareness Month: What to Say (or Not Say) #1

    Because I’m seeing so much pink this week, I find myself thinking about all things related to FBC (f-bomb breast cancer). It’s amazing how a... continue reading