Silver Linings In Family

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Notes to My Daughter

This is the first summer that my Baby Girl (who is now NINE!) is going to overnight, sleep away camp. You all met her shortly after my FBC diagnosis, when she was a wee one, just 4 3/4.  I am astounded by how quickly time has passed.  I know that we all say it. But really. There are days when I can still hardly even believe that I am actually a mother, not to mention the fact that she is NINE and going AWAY for three whole weeks! Wowsy bowsy.

The truth of the matter, however, is that I am completely psyched for her.  She is an independent, strong-willed, curious and joyous girl who is ready to spread her wings.  Further, I’m ready to not only let her, but watch her soar.

On the eve of her departure, I am writing a letter to her and including (among other things) these 10 notes:

  • Live in the moment. Don’t let life pass by in a blur, 
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