Fashion SL's: Scarves

For some crazy reason, traveling on the weekend between Santa Barbara and San Francisco is giving me a real case of the jitters. Feeling anxious frustrates me and feeling frustrated is annoying.  A viscous circle.

Why am I a Nervous Nelly, you ask?  Well, I think that it has to do with the fact that weather (usually in the form of fog) causes seriously debilitating delays in air travel between these two towns.  Flight delays have the potential to cause delays in radiation treatments. This is not good.  Not at all. The cumulative efficacy of radiation treatments depends on consistency in treatments.  Get my restlessness?

I may also be a Nervous Nelly because of a cumulative effect of treatments in general and being just plain tired.  Emotionally and physically. However, those big, beautiful Silver Linings continue to appear.  They are relentlessly joyous!

For example, when I was the most anxious today, a huge Silver Lining found me at the airport in the form of a blissfully empty security line.  In fact, the first TSA person I saw (who checked my ID) recognized me by name.

Then, another TSA agent asked me if my scarf was Hermes.  Yes, I said, as a matter of fact it was my mother-in-law’s.  This TSA agent proceeded to tell me not only how much she liked my scarf, but that her favorite scarf is the one designed by an American for the state of Texas.  I didn’t know that there was a scarf designed for Texas.  An unexpected Silver Lining conversation in the TSA line!

This conversation reminded me of a lovely reader who recently (& unfortunately) joined the FBC (F-bomb Breast Cancer) club. She asked if I would write a post describing how I tie my scarves (on my head).

First, please allow me to say a word about these scarves.  I am tremendously grateful for them. They have been a great source of comfort, warmth, style and security.  Since I had no other choice (about wearing scarves), I decided to embrace the experience…and try to look as chic (ha! ha!) as I possibly could.  I enjoy the challenge of pairing them with outfits (usually I begin with the scarf du jour and then build my outfit around it).






Now, on to describing both in words and photos the way I tie my scarves.  I’ve never done this before and hope it makes sense!

  • Begin by making a triangle out of the large square scarf.  Then place it on your head and hold the edges out to the side (as shown in the photo).


  • Then tie the two edges together.  There will be a little “tail” left.


  • Take the “tail” and tuck it into the part that is tied.  The “tail” is in my left hand.


  • This is what it looks like after the “tail” is tucked.  I don’t know why I call it a tail. No rhyme or reason there.


  • Then you take the two end pieces and you tie them into a bow. If your scarf is big enough, there is plenty of fabric to do this.  If you have a shorter scarf, then I just tie it in a square knot.


  • Ta-Dah!


Here’s one more example.  With a few more close-ups.

  • After making triangle out of the large square scarf and placing it on your head, this is the part where you tie the ends over one another.


  • Edges are tied and the “tail” (again with that word!) hangs out underneath.


  • Tuck the tail over the tied part.


  • “Tail” is tucked…


  • To finish, tie a bow with the two ends (the next three photos…)





  • After the bow is complete, sometimes I’ll tuck the edges into the scarf so there is nothing floppy.


Whenever I think about a beautiful woman wearing a scarf, I always think of Audrey Hepburn.  Her interior beauty was manifested on the outside (Silver Lining).  …and she happened to look spectacular in scarves!

For Attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.
People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.

— Audrey Hepburn



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  1. shelly says

    ThanK you for the stylish look… About to embark on this journey myself. One question, did you wear a cotton hat underneath? Thanks again!

  2. Karen says

    Just want to thank you for being an inspiration on my own f-bomb breast cancer journey in Australia. When my spirit is lapsing I think of you and your brilliant attitude, throughout so much suffering, and I keep looking for Silver Linings too.
    Thanks for the scarf tutorial too – I'd been using long ones as I couldn't work out what to do with the long "tails" on the big triangle ones! And I wear a hat that belonged to my deceased mother in law. I never wore hats before, but when we cleared out her house (before my BC diagnosis) I kept it, just in case it might come in useful and now it has and it's lovely to think of her when I wear it. So I appreciate some of what you mean when you say you enjoy wearing your mother in law's scarf.
    Go well, stay brave and thank you again, Hollye.

  3. Phuong says

    Silk is so much prettier, but really not weather friendly for the head from what I understand (not warm enough when cold and sweaty when hot). To get the best of both worlds, you may want to consider starting with a cotton scarf in a neutral color, then tie the silk one over it. As for the jitters, have you considered Ativan to calm the nerves? Also, some meds have actually been the cause of the nerves for my fellow survivors – you may want to talk to your onc about it. An adjustment of meds made them all go away. Always thinking of you H!!!

  4. roxie solakian says

    You bring tears of gladness to my eyes Hollye.
    You are an extraordinary person.
    Thank You for this blog. oooxoxoR

  5. Kim says

    Like Linda said above, thank you for everything you give to me & all your readers. I still have my bad days with the cancer journey and it helps so much to see/read about your silver linings and that you have the depth of spirit and generosity to share your struggles as well. Your scarves are beautiful and it must help immensely to wear your mother in law's scarf – a woman with whom you had a deep connection. The quote is beautiful. Take care! Thank you again!

  6. Linda says

    Thanks so much for Scarves 101. It comes at a great time since today is my first day of chemo! One question..does the scarf tend to slide off or around on the bald head? Or does tying it pretty much anchor it?
    Hope you can calm down while you are at home.It is totally understandable that you would be feeling anxiety considering what you have been through. Just remember that you are helping many people like me get through our own tough times ahead. Thanks you for all the SL's