Ten is a Silver Lined Number


Today is an especially Silver Lined day because it is our 10th Wedding Anniversary.

Ten years ago today, we were married in front of our closest friends and family in our apartment in Chicago.

Holy Moly. I can’t believe that I just wrote that. I’ve been trying to get my head around this number for some time because it’s just so hard to believe. Why? Well, because time has flown. And the best part is that I’m as happy today as I was the day that we were married.

We’ve been through so much together. Four kids. Two dogs. Five moves. Employment. Retirement. Birth. Death. Adventure. Oh, and pesky FBC.

Despite his recent title coronation as Husband of the Year, the reality is that he has always been the HOTY. There are many days that I can’t believe how truly fortunate I am.  In all ways.

In fact the very first Silver Lining after my diagnosis was recognizing the fact that I am married to someone whom I knew would be an impenetrable pillar. No matter what.

Did I ever mention that he went to every single doctor’s appointment with me? Not just chemo. EVERY single F-bomb doctor’s appointment (Silver Lining). Good grief, I barely made it to all of the appointments!

The quality of our marriage does not come without work.  A whole lotta work.  Everyday. In fact, I’d say that the biggest test came after I returned home from San Francisco. We had to go back to relationship fundamentals, which for us begins with honesty and communication.

We have always been able to say the hard stuff.  To have really difficult conversations that include saying things that the other person may not want to hear.  The key is that we know how to have these conversations respectfully. In fact, we have a standing non-interruption policy.

At the end of the day, we are each other’s #1 Cheerleader and only want the very best for each other.

The other fundamental ingredient to the success of our marriage is that we laugh. Hard and often. The more absurd the situation, the more we seem to laugh.

Today, I’m feeling acutely grateful for the HOTY and for our marriage.  Each is an extraordinary gift (Silver Lining).


A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity.  The order varies for any given year.

~Paul Sweeney

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  1. Marla says

    So beautifully said and felt…..Happy Anniversary sweet Hol and JJ….wishing you many, many more wonderful years together.
    xoxooxoMarla & Lee

  2. Robyn says

    Happy Anniversary Holly and the " Hoty". Ten years is definitely a silver lining as is everyday
    in a good marriage !!!!! Wishing you a lifetime of silver linings to share together!!!!
    Robyn and Len

  3. Nanette and Hilary J says

    Happy Anniversary H and J! Wow doesn't seem possible..10 years! Time flies…..wishing you many, many more years!
    xo N and H

  4. Jools says

    Happy anniversary! I am so happy for you and the HOTY. Thank you for sharing your joy! (and wisdom)
    Btw love his posts too. Xx

  5. Cynthia says

    Happy Anniversary!!!!!! What a nice tribute to HOTY and a marriage that is enduring the tests of time and adversity. Here is to ten more years! xo c.

  6. beth wexner says

    I cannot figure out where the ten years have gone! What a special romantic and heartfelt evening rthat was!! We are so happy that you both have one another ………….. keep working the "fundamentals"…………..talking, listing, laughing! That seems to be the tool for many successful things. A million/trillion great anniversary wishes.

  7. Catie says

    Congratulations you two!!! So amazing, and you are both definitely a force to be reckoned with!! All the best on this amazing day :)


  8. Carol Sacks says

    Hollye, warm wishes to you and JJ on this important milestone! Hope you enjoy a meaningful celebration!